I’ve been thinking lately, before saying something, anything, WHY is it that I’m telling them precisely THAT at that precise moment.  What’s behind what I’m conveying?  It takes a lot of practice, believe me.  I requires thinking about two (or more) things at THE SAME TIME.  Talking about one concept and thinking about another.

My conclusion:  I guess I’m TRYING TO GET SOMETHING from the other person(s).

It could be anything.  Lately I noticed a lot of need for validation.  I need someone to let me know I’m on the right track, doing the right thing.

Is this really necessary?  In the name of efficiency, I would say no.  So I’ve started to THINK BEFORE I TALK and ask myself, What is the purpose of what I’m about to say to this person?  If it doesn’t have a good purpose, I’ve started not saying it, and not saying anything!

So I think soon I won’t have anything at all to say.

Introspection.  What a drag!  It could be the end of manipulation!  Bummer!

So if I see you and I don’t say anything, thank your lucky stars!  I won’t be manipulating you today!  I’ll just be Yelka the mute!