I’ve been thinking lately, before saying something, anything, WHY is it that I’m telling them precisely THAT at that precise moment. What’s behind what I’m conveying? It takes a lot of practice, believe me. I requires thinking abouttwo(or more)things at THE SAME TIME. Talking about one concept and thinking about another.
My conclusion: I guess I’m TRYING TO GET SOMETHING from the other person(s).
It could be anything. Lately I noticed a lot of need for validation. I need someone to let me know I’m on the right track, doing the right thing.
Is this really necessary? In the name of efficiency, I would say no. So I’ve started to THINK BEFORE I TALK and ask myself, What is the purpose of what I’m about to say to this person? If it doesn’t have a good purpose, I’ve started not saying it, and not saying anything!
So I think soon I won’t have anything at all to say.
Introspection. What a drag! It could be the end of manipulation! Bummer!
So if I see you and I don’t say anything, thank your lucky stars! I won’t be manipulating you today! I’ll just be Yelka the mute!